Let's take a trip to Fantasy Island
So, I'm doing the do...and all of a sudden out of nowhere thoughts of my ex pop into my mind. Now, let me help you out here. I'm talking about the high school/college ex. The "we don't really know what we're doing, but we're going to do it anyway ex". The "I haven't seen you in over 10 years, don't you have four kids now, ex". I'm happy to say that I do know that fantasies are very "normal" for both men and women...my question is, do you talk about yours to your mate...should you?
From the time I was pre-teen I knew that I was going to like sex. Don't ask me how I knew, I just knew. I also knew that I could never do it until I was ready to do it all the time. So, I waited and I waited. What I didn't wait for was the thinking about it. I've always had a very graphic imagination and wondered if I was normal, because no one ever talked about girls thinking about or wanting sex.
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That was just the boys. It was said that was all that boys thought about...sex! Imagine my confusion. Was I born a boy and by some freak accident ended up with breast? What's wrong with me? It would be after college before I found out that I was normal. That not only did girls, women even "ladies" think about sex, they even enjoyed a little sex, with people that they were not married to or in some cases...not even in a serious relationship with.
Well, since I waited so long to do the do, I'd convinced myself that I had to be in love before doing it...so, I waited until I was. Now, I did mention that I was a little slow right? Now, imagine, I've waited all this time and everything is great. Then one day, out of the blue, it happened. I don't know how or why, it just did. His hand was going one place and my mind went somewhere else, with someone else. I felt guiltier than the time I broke my mom's favorite crystal angel and blamed it on my poodle Sassy.
To relieve my guilt afterwards, I asked a question that at any other given time; I'd never want to hear the answer yes to... "Do you every think of anyone else while we're doing it?" His answer, "No, do you"? Again, here I go thinking I was born a boy, with breast. I lied. Nope. Only you. That was then. Now, well, let's just say that I have a list and some things I'm checking off twice. Personally, I love to share my fantasies with my mate. He finds them humorous most of the time.
Here are a few sexual fantasies that both Men and Women have:
- Fantasies about their current partner
- Sexual domination (non violent)
- Sex with another Man or Woman or both @ same time
- Giving or Receiving Oral Sex
- Anal Sex
- Sex with a Stranger
- Having Your Partner Masturbate for You
- Voyeurism and Exhibitionism
- Sex with an ex
- Fantasies involving romantic sex
Feel free to add your own fantasies. Go ahead dare to dream, to have your cake and fantasy too. Sharing may be a bigger payoff than you think. Remember though, sometimes it's better to dream it than live it. This is Leticia, asking "what's your fantasy"?
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maishagal says:Posted: 11 Feb 07What a great article...hav been discussng trying new sexual experiences lately :)
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sweetest1 says:Posted: 21 Dec 06I rarely fantasize, but when I do they are pretty darn good!! :-P
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Cocokisses says:Posted: 14 Dec 06Fantasy keeps the spice in relationships. If the couple isn't hurting anyone outside of their own union, then more power to them!
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romeoluvs says:Posted: 04 Dec 06fantasies are fun if they are good and perverted minds fantasies are crap.
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xina03 says:Posted: 09 Nov 06I believe that fantasies (I mean the good ones' not those perverted mind) are what keep us alive and make our relationship works.....
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ebonybeautyj says:Posted: 08 Nov 06Healthy, sane fantasies are fine, just dont cross the line
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Coco says:Posted: 07 Nov 06
C'mon ladies...nothing wrong with a little fantasy. Long term relationships have been spicing it up for years...we should learn from those in them.
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aantonio says:Posted: 27 Oct 06
Fantasies is something that can be just a dream or you can eventually make into reality. Me personally, i have a few fantasies i would like to do someday, with that write one. HOwever, you must know how to balance fantasies and dreams
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Traceeeee says:Posted: 24 Oct 06FANTASIES R GOOD BUT THEY ARE JUST FANTASIES
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iceburger says:Posted: 16 Oct 06I guess at times its ok to have the fantasies, but keep them deep withing you, for one may mention them to the partner, and break that they have created. People are very different.
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lizzy2005 says:Posted: 15 Oct 06I think everyone has fantasies. however, if I am being intimate with someone I would hope that I don't need to think about anyone else to enjoy myself.
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embraceme says:Posted: 14 Oct 06
UPDATE SINCE LAST WROTE..FANTASIES ARE NEEDED HERE..LOL.. WILL CONSIDER TAKING A MAN WITH A HOME AND LOTS OF LOVE TO GIVE INSTEAD OF FANTASIES.. LET ME HANDLE THE FANTASIES AND YOU HANDLE ME... LOL.. I THINK THIS SITE HAS PROVEN WITHOUT A SHADOW OF A DOUBT THAT IT IS ALL ABOUT FANTASIES.. ALL THE MEN ON HERE AND ALLL THE WOMEN FANTASY ABOUT EVERYONE LOL... ESPECIALLY ME IF YOU MEN KNEW LOL..
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ebonybeautyj says:Posted: 13 Oct 06
Fantasies give us all hope of finding true love..
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Candy says:Posted: 13 Oct 06Good old fantasies, got to love them... But, i prefer the real deal :)
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unme23 says:Posted: 12 Oct 06fantasies are fun, when you think of them, knowing that they will never come true.
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whytb0y says:Posted: 12 Oct 06
RE NIKKI'S POST TO -26th of Sep, 2006 Fantasies are nice because you can explore your freaky side or your romantic side with out actually doing it 4 real ,Now living them out is a whole different story,personally my fantasy is to own a beautuful home with my flawlessy beautiful wife and our incredibly awsome kids and just be a loving happy family ,oh and having a massive bank account wouldn't hurt either lol. Wait is that more like a dream?? lol Posted by whytb0y RE-27th of Sep, 2006 WOW...to find a man that dreams or has fantasies about a wife and kids?! Now, that IS truly my fantasy! :) Posted by Nikki get at me and send me a note and lets talk .
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Candy says:Posted: 11 Oct 06
I would NOT tell my current mate... Why mess up a good thing, over an idea that ran cross your mind over someone you might never meet or see again... The mind playes tricks on you..But, if your in bed with your mate, in you seem to keeping about this ex, than somethings up...
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Deena says:Posted: 11 Oct 06
Fantasies can be a good thing or a bad thing. An ex from way back shared some of his with me and I was totally turned off by him..... especially since he wouldn't stop bothering me with them!!
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yoby says:Posted: 09 Oct 06phantasies are not only good and very natural, theey are also a good process for the mind, so it makes no sense to try to put them down or control them, it is BAD!!!
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angela33 says:Posted: 08 Oct 06Funny thing about fantasies you can't really control them when they pop into your head they kind of take over. Makes me kinda tingly inside. Fantasies shared with a partner should be pleasant and not scary. If you have doubts take soem time to think about it. Never do something that you are uncomfortable with. Fantasies should be shared with someone that you trust and your partner should understand if ou do not want to share in the fantasy. You can always start out with something mild and work your way up to it. Or create a fantasy together.Add to the story so to speak. Its so fun try it! Angela
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Dora says:Posted: 08 Oct 06There is nothing better than the human imagination. Some fantasies should be shared and others need to be kept to yourself because they would cause more problems than necessary. Sharing healthy fantasies could add some spice to your life.
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JADE74 says:Posted: 08 Oct 06Fantasies are good...some are best kept to yourself. We all have them.
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CarolinaQT says:Posted: 07 Oct 06There's absolutely nothing wrong with fantasizing. Although it would be nice to say we should only fantasize about the one we're with, realistically, your mind can take you places that you know you don't need to be sometimes. We're all human, it happens :)
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iceburger says:Posted: 07 Oct 06
Fantasy is quite normal. It makes one have that deja vu.
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CarolinaQT says:Posted: 07 Oct 06
There's absolutely nothing wrong with fantasizing. Although it would be nice to say we should only fantasize about the one we're with, realistically, your mind can take you places that you know you don't need to be sometimes. We're all human, it happens :)
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CarolinaQT says:Posted: 06 Oct 06
There's absolutely nothing wrong with fantasizing. Although it would be nice to say we should only fantasize about the one we're with, realistically, your mind can take you places that you know you don't need to be sometimes. We're all human, it happens :)
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justknowingu says:Posted: 06 Oct 06
Good article...very thought provoking...but don't want to reflect on things in the past too much!---
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BrwnBeauty says:Posted: 05 Oct 06
Fantasy is the stuff dreams are made of, without them, we have nothing to strive to achieve.
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babymeat says:Posted: 04 Oct 06
boy, do i love some of me fantasies.........lol
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sweetest1 says:Posted: 03 Oct 06
I think we have a lot in common...lol. I never really fantasized about same sex or more than one partner.... but I've been caught day-dreaming about it all too often!! hehehe They say women aren't as obvious as men about it... but I think a look on my face says it all because people always seem to know *blush*
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xina03 says:Posted: 03 Oct 06
Fantasies are very entertaining.....and I like for all my fantasies to come true....
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Carla says:Posted: 03 Oct 06
I think if we dont have fantasies then something is wrong....they are natural part of life....just my h/o 2 cents
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justknowingu says:Posted: 02 Oct 06
Great article... fanatasies are very much worth having and entertaining--'cause sometimes they do come true!!
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pooh says:Posted: 02 Oct 06fantasies are great, relationship without it can be boring. But, some fantasies might just have to remain as is
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ebonybeautyj says:Posted: 02 Oct 06
Fantasies help you to dream and keeps love alive!
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charlee1 says:Posted: 02 Oct 06i have one particular fantasy that i would love to share with you guys, but am way to shy!! lol
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lizzy2005 says:Posted: 02 Oct 06
I myself think fantasies are normal. I personally have a good one of my own. But I'm not tellin lol!
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kenyanito says:Posted: 02 Oct 06Please keep up the good arcticles. Fantasies, yes they exist.
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Coco says:Posted: 02 Oct 06
Fantasies are perfectly normal, as long as they don't involve underage kids like those Dateline shows are always showing. Most of the men say that their urge to live out the fantasy outweighs the risk. In that case, its crazy but for the most part most of us are living out our fantasies without hurting anyone.
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Natural72 says:Posted: 01 Oct 06
Fantasies keep it exciting and give both of you something to look forward to!!
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Sweetheart says:Posted: 01 Oct 06
I have never had a relationship without a fantasy... Keeps things exciting!
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