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3 Interracial Couples Share How They Dealt With Hate

Posted by Akila, 30 Mar

While many people embrace and celebrate interracial relationships, there are a few hateful people across the world who unleash their racism and try to cause hurt for interracial couples. Nowadays, many people don’t even realize they are in an interracial relationship. They just see themselves as simply being in love. However those who find this hard to deal with think they have the right to judge the relationship and inflict their unwanted opinion.

Sadly, many interracial couples have to go through such experiences when they encounter a racist or a judgemental person. And while at the time it’ll shock and disappoint you, these narrow-minded people will only make your relationship stronger as you defeat the haters together.

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To show you you’re not alone in this fight, we’ve asked some inspiring interracial couples to give us their accounts of dealing with a racist encounter and how it has made them determined to prove that love really does triumph over hate.

Maria and Liam’s Story:

‘I was offered a nanny job!’

While I was out with my husband and our darling little boy, Alfie, we stopped off at the park for him to play. I am Asian and my husband and our child are white (in fact, our son is blonde haired and blue eyed and doesn’t look at all like me). While playing with Alfie in the park, a woman comes over to me, saying how I was a shining example of someone who loved her job and if I would consider being a nanny for her children instead. She even said she would pay more than what I was on.

I had to laugh at her presumptuousness. I explained that while I would love to be a nanny for her children, I wouldn’t have time to fit it in my job as a lawyer and looking after my own child. Bemused by what was going on, my husband walked up to us and the woman said to him ‘I bet you’re grateful he looks like you and not her’ and marched off.

We spent the rest of the afternoon inventing the best comebacks that we wished we could have said.

Charlotte and Santiago’s Story

“But you’re not ‘truly’ compatible.”

We regularly visit our local Latin-inspired cocktail bar for drinks and dancing with friends on a Friday night. Most of the time everyone is in good spirits, so they don’t even notice or care about anyone in the room. Occasionally you encounter a sour face at the bar.

I’m Hispanic, and my girlfriend is white, and as I went to get drinks, a lady with a horrendous pout sidled up and asked ‘what are you doing with a skinny white girl? You’re a man who needs a real woman’. Resisting the urge to throw my recently poured drink in her face, I politely explained that Charlotte was my soulmate and that she was twice the ‘real’ woman she would ever be.

Expecting this to shut her up, she retorted: ‘But you’re not ‘truly’ compatible, she’ll never understand you like a girl of your own race’.

That really wound me up, and I went on a hell-bent rant explaining that since Charlotte had been my best friend since pre-school and we’d lived together for ten years, she did understand me pretty well. Gripping the drinks in a rage, I went back to join the fun and forget about the spiteful woman.

Ade and Alya

“How does this work?”

I met Ade through a dating site. He is of African descent and I am Indian.We fell in love through our shared love of films and binge-watching box-sets. At the beginning of our relationship, it dawned on us that we kinda looked unusual from the outset; and that we did seem to get strange looks.

Much as we got used to the odd looks we got when we were out together, people occasionally made remarks. I remember one person, looked at us from top to bottom, asking: “How does this even work?”. At the time we were queuing for tickets. So Ade politely explained to the woman how the process of purchasing tickets worked.

Unfortunately, this didn’t sit well with her as she proceeded to tell us that we were ‘sick’. Making fun of the whole incident, Ade then sneezed loudly and said that we were very sick and the disease was contagious and she'd better be careful. The woman left the queue immediately; which was a double-bonus for us.